It’s taken me a long time and it’s been a gradual process, but slowly, ever so slowly, I’m caring less and less about doing what I think I should be doing and more and more about doing what’s right for me. The results have been amazing. I’ve let go of guilt, of shoulds, and of thinking there is some magical they out there who are dictating how one live one’s life. It’s resulted in changes, less webbish life, more real life. Doing more to meet people who have nothing to do with tech has been hard, but so good. Leaving communities, especially online ones, that bring only negativity has been fantastic. And, especially now, it’s been freeing to do what’s best for me in the midst of a whole lot of awful.